School's started...

My academic life had started last week...met with my supervisor and things were cleared up to start with the chapter 1 and chapter 2 for research's paperwork. A lot of reading and researching have to be conducted...I found time and energy are my constraint now...there is always less time and lack of energy to focus and work on the task. Working during midnight was not effective as I ended up dragging myself up in the morning and in a few days time...i couldn't stand it anymore...

Sigh....guess age is getting on me now....ageing lady no longer able to survive midnight oil...

Anyone has any remedy to cure this ageing???

Truth Reveal After Marriage

The title sounds so mysterious and many might wonder what kind of truth is being revealed. Well, I learnt a big lesson from my marriage. I knew I was blinded by love before marriage, and after marriage everything is so crystal clear to me. Reality hits me finally....

Upon saying that, I realised I married to a "not-good-breed" guy after all. The term includes his personality, his upbringing, his knowledge, his characteristic, his temper and his family. I am so regretful over about this....I know there won't be a perfect guy out there in this world, but at least not so bad...I think my chose the wrong guy to be my life partner, and my kid's dad...it's totally the wrong puzzle.

I found him to be utterly lazy, messy and forgetful...and he never cares or learn to teach kids..he is really bad at this...Always teaches Eric the bad stuff..like hitting people and boxing...it is all wrong. When I ask him to teach Eric Chinese, as he said he wanted Eric to study Chinese so can communicate with his parents, until now he never teaches him a single character...only words no action (he has been saying this since the day Eric was born). I will never teach Eric Chinese as I am Chinese illiterated. So don't blame me when your parents complain why Eric doesn't know Chinese...the answer is your problem....

One thing for sure, my hubby is getting fatter day by day while I am getting skinnier...I got back my original weight after 2 months birth...it is really fast this time...probably getting "hubby-stress" too much these days...And I found out he is a very bad tempered person...when he is angry he can kill people...but only he tries to hide it..but his facial shows everything...I really did not like his temper and the way he deals with it. He always claims himself the most good-tempered person in his family. Do you know his whole family members have very bad temper just like their father? And my hubby has that too though he always says he has very good temper...and never throw tantrum...oh well my dear hubby, you have shown to me without you knowing it yourself.

And the point I dislike most is he is the worst planner ever....I really hated this fact...as I like to plan and my hubby sucks at that...and always spoils my plan... He is bad at time, family, financial and future managements...........he never had such plans. Family planning none...and worst was no financial planning at all...he said he has but in the end...always complain me use up the money...Oh well, I already do my part to the family, and he is the man of the house...if he can't afford to support a family then don't get married. I get angry quickly each time he deals money discussion with me...he has been working for 7 years already and I only worked for 4 years... He should have a lot of saving and able to support a family by now...and the fact is very depressing...

I have to pay the downpayment for the house, and I have to pay for the car downpayment too..and paying 70% for the car installment, and I did not ask for monthly allowance as a wife...haven't I providing good financial support. Being a lady, with the money earned, people would expect me spending the money on my own for shopping and paying my own bills... Nobody knows the truth about this...not even my parents-in-law. They thought my hubby paid everything as my hubby sure bragged about himself being a good hubby and financially stable to support a family. I am really sad and upset to know that he is not honest at all to his parents.

I can continue listing out the parts of him I am unhappy about...but I think I will bore all my readers...anyway I just want to let out my unhappiness which I have kept for past few months...Didn't know how to release it...so now writing it out in a blog is a good step for me...

KL Merdeka Trip

Last weekend, I brought my both kids to KL for holiday for the first time. My mum and my little sister went along with me. We had planned earlier that we will be doing some shopping in KL. My hubby was the driver.

Anyway, the main purpose for the trip was to shop at IKEA to buy some furniture and things for Eric. I had been complaining to my hubby that our house was not children-friendly at all and since now our Eric is already 19months, it is time to setup a play area cum study area for him as this time is crucial for him to learn things. My son has been really interested to learn things these few weeks...and he is learning fast.

We stayed at Hotel Royale Bintang which is located right opposite IKEA and next to The Curve. It will be more convenient for me who has children along. So how was the trip overall? Well, the shopping part with my mum and my sister was great....we were all in happy mood enjoying the holiday. Frankly speaking, I have not been to any shopping for quite a long time...some more shopping at IKEA was only my first time. And the most unhappy part for me was my hubby. He spoilt everyone's mood for the holiday trip. He was so rude and impatient that I was really mad at him. He complaint here and there especially about bringing kids out and also about the H1N1. I was so frustrated at him. When shopping at IKEA, it was expected to spend the whole day there, but he was so impatient that he rushed me here and there. Since we were already at IKEA (travel so far to buy things), of course we have to look carefully and buy whatever we really needed especially for our children. He showed the "black clouded" face to me, my mum and my sister. I was so upset at him as he has spoilt our shopping mood.

And of course bringing little kids along to shopping would be hectic and troublesome but we have to bear with it and cheer the kids up. My hubby only took care of Eric and he banned Eric from playing at the IKEA children area with the toys and didn't allow him him to walk on his own. My Eric was so excited as he knew we were on holiday and looking at the interesting things in IKEA, he wanted to run around and played...but he was tied up by his dad. He was crying and making noise...so now, who was the one who made him cry? It was my hubby. And he complaint how troublesome to bring kids along. My mum, sister and I took turn to take care Fion while shopping, and we did not complain at all....

The part I dislike most was he was so unthoughtful and always brought Eric away back to hotel, and left me, my mum, my sister and my baby (all ladies only) all alone in the restaurant in every meal. He would eat quickly and brought Eric back to hotel and left us ladies there...no matter where we were. It was so rude...and never thought of me...I'm his wife and we were in a new place....and he didn't even think of protecting me especially I was taking care of Fion on my own while eating. I really hated this part....

I learnt my lesson of the day from the trip...Never to ask my hubby along for holiday anymore as he was impatient...and never trust my hubby in anything....he is a lousy hubby and daddy...

I can't believe that it's already 5 years...

Today dated 27th August 2009 is my 5th year anniversary in relationshop with my hubby...wow, can't imagine it's already 5 years of us being together. How time flies...

I almost forgot the day until my hubby reminded me last night. I think after having 2 kids and busy at home taking care of them, I lost track of all days...don't even know the date too...ahaha

Maternity Leave is over...

How time flies and it's already 2 months since I gave birth. My baby Fion is already 2 months old now. I've been busy with my son and my baby girl past 2 months...was not aware how time past so fast...and sometimes even lost track of time.

My sister Jasy has flown to Syracuse, New York to start her Master study. How I miss her so much after all these years with her in Malaysia, and now she is thousand miles across sea...Anyhow, thanks to the modern technology that I am able to see my sister virtually everyday via video calls...I could see her and hear her...My mum too is very happy about it as she can chat with my sister everyday and even see how she is doing in New York. Life won't be the same for her in New York but I wish her the best in all her endeavours in her studies and life there.

As for my Master, I'm still working on my schedule to focus on setting up my development environment so I can do some coding. There are many things I need to arrange before I am able to sit down and focus working on my research. First, I need to get a private desk so my son won't be able to climb up and disturb me. Secondly, I need to fix some time (a few hours) to be able to work on my research...this is the hardest part as my baby Fion always wants mummy to carry her and accompany her. And this eats up a lot of the time for a day...Thirdly, I need to work out with my hubby about transport. He is driving the car to work everyday which leaves me no transport to go to my University to get some things done sometimes...I am asking him to get a 2nd hand motorbike for himself so he can ride to work some days when I need to use the car. And there are some other matters that I need to look into too...oh well, wish me luck...

Fion's Full Moon celebration

Today, my daughter, Fion turns one month old. It's already one month, and my confinement has finally over. We celebrated Fion's full moon last Saturday as my hubby wanted to throw a buffet party for her. We invited our colleagues and friends. My parents-in-law came over too. It was a great party to meet all my friends and colleagues after a month of prison at home.

Unfortunately, I was too busy until I forgot to take photos for the event. Worse was I even forgot to snap some photos of Fion. Never mind, I will take it today as it's her official one month old today.

There were quite a number of people attended the party. It's wasn't a big crowd as my hubby expected but I was satisfied as some close friends came over for the event. I even baked brownies, made jelly (agar-agar) and cooked Japanese curry chicken for the buffet. The buffet turned out to be a success but there were still a lot of leftover food. And I wanted to give the food away for charity to the old folks' home to celebrate Fion's full moon, but it was deffered by my mother-in-law. She said don't waste the food, and I was thinking how could you say it's wasting food when we want to do some charity to donate the good food to old folks' home. It's called charity and it's doing good bu sharing the happy event with other unfortunate people. My idea was turned down by my mother-in-law and she insisted that we all ate and finished the food for dinner time. I was so pissed off especially when my hubby just kept quiet like a church mouse and just follow instructions from his mother. I had already told my hubby to bring my parents-in-law and my brother-in law out for dinner as they traveled so far up to Penang and he should be responsible to bring them eat some Penang local good food. And I became invinsible to him when his parents came and forgot all the suggestions I gave him.

Angrily and quietly, I went into the room with my both kids. I have no eyes to see anymore, and my ears were too hot to listen to my mother-in-law words. My mother has told me that it's a custom for our family to bring the full moon baby and mother out for a stroll just like during my Eric's full moon celebration. My parents-in-law were very stubborn and very traditional "kampong" style people and worse was my hubby who was the father of the baby just kept in silence. I was so frustrated with him. He always made me angry when his parents were around. I became invinsible to him and my words were not heed by him. Sometimes I think the Tee family has communication problem. The son doesn't know how to communicate with his parents. And when I approach him to ask him speak to his parents on the suggestion or idea, he just kept quiet and did not respond to me.

So the day which started with happiness was followed by frustration again after the buffet ended. It has spoilt my entire mood. In the end I decided only to focus taking care of my 2 kids and kept my 2 kids happy. I left all the plan and arrangement to my hubby for his family though my hubby sucks at planning.

Anyway, I was happy that my Fion is growing well and here is the latest 1 month old snapshot of her.

3rd Week of Confinement

It's going to be the end of my 3rd week of confinement. Feeling happy as soon in a week plus time I will be free like a bird again....no need to be quarantine in the house. Nevertheless, I have started planning all the things that I need to do and want to do after my confinement. There is a list of things that I need to work on....

But above all that, I am now busy planning and arranging for my baby girl, Fion's full moon party. Fion is going to be a month old soon in a week time, and this time my hubby wanted to throw a lunch party to celebrate her full moon. In Chinese tradition, a month old is considered a full moon and it is an auspicious celebration for the baby. In Chinese custom, red-coloured eggs and "angku kuih" are a-must things to be prepared, and the baby will then need to dress in red clothings, and bath with gold jewellery.

For the lunch party, we have decided to celebrate it on 25th July 2007 (2 days earlier that the exact date) because Saturday would be the most convenient day to everyone. We are having buffet lunch party by hiring catering service at home. Invitations have been sent out and I hope the party will be a success.

And the proudest part for me is....I designed the invitation card myself...and I simply like the design...bravo to Mummy Irene here!!! Here is the invitation card: