Truth Reveal After Marriage

The title sounds so mysterious and many might wonder what kind of truth is being revealed. Well, I learnt a big lesson from my marriage. I knew I was blinded by love before marriage, and after marriage everything is so crystal clear to me. Reality hits me finally....

Upon saying that, I realised I married to a "not-good-breed" guy after all. The term includes his personality, his upbringing, his knowledge, his characteristic, his temper and his family. I am so regretful over about this....I know there won't be a perfect guy out there in this world, but at least not so bad...I think my chose the wrong guy to be my life partner, and my kid's dad...it's totally the wrong puzzle.

I found him to be utterly lazy, messy and forgetful...and he never cares or learn to teach kids..he is really bad at this...Always teaches Eric the bad stuff..like hitting people and boxing...it is all wrong. When I ask him to teach Eric Chinese, as he said he wanted Eric to study Chinese so can communicate with his parents, until now he never teaches him a single character...only words no action (he has been saying this since the day Eric was born). I will never teach Eric Chinese as I am Chinese illiterated. So don't blame me when your parents complain why Eric doesn't know Chinese...the answer is your problem....

One thing for sure, my hubby is getting fatter day by day while I am getting skinnier...I got back my original weight after 2 months birth...it is really fast this time...probably getting "hubby-stress" too much these days...And I found out he is a very bad tempered person...when he is angry he can kill people...but only he tries to hide it..but his facial shows everything...I really did not like his temper and the way he deals with it. He always claims himself the most good-tempered person in his family. Do you know his whole family members have very bad temper just like their father? And my hubby has that too though he always says he has very good temper...and never throw tantrum...oh well my dear hubby, you have shown to me without you knowing it yourself.

And the point I dislike most is he is the worst planner ever....I really hated this fact...as I like to plan and my hubby sucks at that...and always spoils my plan... He is bad at time, family, financial and future managements...........he never had such plans. Family planning none...and worst was no financial planning at all...he said he has but in the end...always complain me use up the money...Oh well, I already do my part to the family, and he is the man of the house...if he can't afford to support a family then don't get married. I get angry quickly each time he deals money discussion with me...he has been working for 7 years already and I only worked for 4 years... He should have a lot of saving and able to support a family by now...and the fact is very depressing...

I have to pay the downpayment for the house, and I have to pay for the car downpayment too..and paying 70% for the car installment, and I did not ask for monthly allowance as a wife...haven't I providing good financial support. Being a lady, with the money earned, people would expect me spending the money on my own for shopping and paying my own bills... Nobody knows the truth about this...not even my parents-in-law. They thought my hubby paid everything as my hubby sure bragged about himself being a good hubby and financially stable to support a family. I am really sad and upset to know that he is not honest at all to his parents.

I can continue listing out the parts of him I am unhappy about...but I think I will bore all my readers...anyway I just want to let out my unhappiness which I have kept for past few months...Didn't know how to release it...so now writing it out in a blog is a good step for me...

KL Merdeka Trip

Last weekend, I brought my both kids to KL for holiday for the first time. My mum and my little sister went along with me. We had planned earlier that we will be doing some shopping in KL. My hubby was the driver.

Anyway, the main purpose for the trip was to shop at IKEA to buy some furniture and things for Eric. I had been complaining to my hubby that our house was not children-friendly at all and since now our Eric is already 19months, it is time to setup a play area cum study area for him as this time is crucial for him to learn things. My son has been really interested to learn things these few weeks...and he is learning fast.

We stayed at Hotel Royale Bintang which is located right opposite IKEA and next to The Curve. It will be more convenient for me who has children along. So how was the trip overall? Well, the shopping part with my mum and my sister was great....we were all in happy mood enjoying the holiday. Frankly speaking, I have not been to any shopping for quite a long time...some more shopping at IKEA was only my first time. And the most unhappy part for me was my hubby. He spoilt everyone's mood for the holiday trip. He was so rude and impatient that I was really mad at him. He complaint here and there especially about bringing kids out and also about the H1N1. I was so frustrated at him. When shopping at IKEA, it was expected to spend the whole day there, but he was so impatient that he rushed me here and there. Since we were already at IKEA (travel so far to buy things), of course we have to look carefully and buy whatever we really needed especially for our children. He showed the "black clouded" face to me, my mum and my sister. I was so upset at him as he has spoilt our shopping mood.

And of course bringing little kids along to shopping would be hectic and troublesome but we have to bear with it and cheer the kids up. My hubby only took care of Eric and he banned Eric from playing at the IKEA children area with the toys and didn't allow him him to walk on his own. My Eric was so excited as he knew we were on holiday and looking at the interesting things in IKEA, he wanted to run around and played...but he was tied up by his dad. He was crying and making noise...so now, who was the one who made him cry? It was my hubby. And he complaint how troublesome to bring kids along. My mum, sister and I took turn to take care Fion while shopping, and we did not complain at all....

The part I dislike most was he was so unthoughtful and always brought Eric away back to hotel, and left me, my mum, my sister and my baby (all ladies only) all alone in the restaurant in every meal. He would eat quickly and brought Eric back to hotel and left us ladies there...no matter where we were. It was so rude...and never thought of me...I'm his wife and we were in a new place....and he didn't even think of protecting me especially I was taking care of Fion on my own while eating. I really hated this part....

I learnt my lesson of the day from the trip...Never to ask my hubby along for holiday anymore as he was impatient...and never trust my hubby in anything....he is a lousy hubby and daddy...